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THIS! OVER AND OVER AND OVER, AGAIN.
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“Butterflies can’t see their wings. They can’t see how beautiful they are, but everyone else can. People are like that.”
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TRUE STORY
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“The taboos against a woman’s anger are so powerful that many women don’t realize it’s okay to feel angry. As a result, many women learn to fear anger because it brings such disapproval from others and because there is fear that anger will make matters worse. Holding anger in can bring on serious emotional as well as physical problems, primarily because you turn your anger inward toward yourself. This can cause illness and depression. Later on in life, if one does not work on these issues, one can become a very aggressive wife and mother.
Women who fear anger frequently live in silent anger all of their lives, telling themselves ‘I must keep silent. I mustn’t show my rage.’ Many times, they don’t even recognize what is making them so angry. ‘I must believe what people tell me. I mustn’t betray anyone. I must stay motionless until my rage kills me.’ Many women do become physically ill because they can never express what they feel inside. The anxiety about speaking out is oftentimes rooted in childhood. Once faced, breaking the silence can change one’s life…
I had to practice becoming angry and expressing it. I have learned that aftereffects of childhood trauma can be overcome by getting in touch with the child within us that was traumatized. This does not have to be sexual trauma. Many things can traumatize a child. Children are very emotionally fragile. As we grow up traumatized, we become speechless, chronically depressed and suffer all of our lives unless we face our issues. Once we overcome, we should have no need to sink back into our despair and silence. Critical as we may be of our parents, there is no way of escaping the imprint that stays with us throughout our lives. Awareness in the fact becomes evident when we have our own children. We put our children through the same thing we experienced when we were young. What I have learned through much therapy is that we can change our thoughts and lives. We don’t have to carry those old bad habits. We can change our roles as husbands, fathers, wives and mothers. Our children will not suffer our mistakes.”
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Teaching girls that their appearance is the first thing you notice tells them that looks are more important than anything. It sets them up for dieting at age 5 and foundation at age 11 and boob jobs at 17 and Botox at 23. As our cultural imperative for girls to be hot 24/7 has become the new normal, American women have become increasingly unhappy. What’s missing? A life of meaning, a life of ideas and reading books and being valued for our thoughts and accomplishments.” “How To Talk To Little Girls” by Lisa Bloom (via twofish)
